I hope you are well and all is well around you?
It’s been a couple of intense days since my last post, quite a mix I must add; beauty and pain in the most uniquely patterned experiences, decision, decisions and some more decision. Amongst these unique events, was having to take my wisdom tooth out, THE SECOND TIME!
My first dental experience though a pleasant relationship with the doctor (who by of no mere chance happened to be the doctor in charge of my operation this time), was almost a nightmare. I had a swollen gum which made my face two times the size and irregularly formed. Recovery was no child play as I had to be admitted for a couple of days and monitored strictly. Even then, at least two of those nights ‘sound’ wouldn’t even accompany my tears, they just flowed down my cheek codedly! That was my last receipt of pain from taking out a tooth! Hearing my doctor now tell me the better option will be to take out my tooth again, you can just imagine wasn’t met with petals and flowers on the way to my medulla. On the contrary, should it not have been her (my dentist) and the encouragement from the possibly more advanced environment I stepped in that day; the dental clinic (more technologically forward equipment, health protective procedures maintained at basic levels and a generally relaxed ambience) I promise you, I just may have committed to eternal wails!
Fast forward and today I can say my experience definitely was different and better. I did experience abrupt pain two or three days, I even cried one of those nights because my surgery (oh yes, this time it was a surgery on my gum not the regular operation because of the tooth placement and yadayada) began to limit the opening of my jaw and just quite frankly be mad, but I was prepped for it with necessary medication, followed through with checkup calls and mentally ‘signing out’ from strenuous activity – A.K.A trying to make a living for *rolls eye*.
I picked up something’s about life and pain from this;
1. The fact that you care for the human, appreciate the human or believe the human, is no golden ticket to not feel the hurt they may cause you, neither does the time, status, environment or advantages you may have in life provide you an escape from their pain. Pain is an experience of its own, once initiated, will commence program. Your responsibility will now be finding how to deal with it.
2. Pain is unique and will be experienced differently at different levels or understood differently when shared by different people. There’s pain that would shake your whole existence, threaten it and challenge you to make necessary changes and there’s pain that will almost feel comical, pain that would be relived in silence, brief doses even though you are being prepped or walk through it.
3. Pain WILL expire! The receipt of it, that’s a permanent copy except you deliberately choose to pass it to God, it’s not automatic either, it’s one process that proves grace! So, knowing this is knowing that you MUST be intentional about what you give to people! You must care to do better; you must walk daily to give hope rather than tear down.
In both of these pain process I was always talking to my heavenly father especially through mental conversations, I asked for the grace to go through it. I also had amazing support at both times, though varied in intensity, it was there; allow people who care truly and understand you be there for you. Do not go into the dark alone. Lastly, your mind and confessions are important; the bible says “…whatever is true is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable – if anything is praise worthy – think about such things” (Philippians 4;8) and reminds us “Some people make cutting remarks but the words of the wise bring healing” (Proverbs 12:18).
Which brings me to the question, how do YOU deal with pain?